How to Choose the Right Conferences to Speak At (And Which Ones Actually Pay)

How to Choose the Right Conferences to Speak At (And Which Ones Actually Pay)

If you're a B2B consultant or founder using speaking as a lead generation strategy, understanding the events landscape isn't optional — it's the foundation of your entire approach.


 

Most business owners who speak assume that the biggest, most recognizable events in their industry are the stages worth chasing.

Then they find out those events don't pay speakers. At all.

Now, not all business leaders seek a speaking fee. In the right circumstances, speaking for free could make sense—especially if you’re confident you can convert the room into warm leads.

But, if part of your motivation is to get paid to speak, those big illustrious industry conferences are not where you want to put your time and energy.

SXSW? Speakers receive a badge, no fee.

HubSpot's INBOUND?

Dreamforce?

Social Media Marketing World?

Same story.

Sure, these events will write six-figure checks for celebrity keynotes. But the industry experts delivering tactical talks, breakout sessions, and workshops?

They speak for free.

If you didn't know this, you're not alone. And if it stings a little to find out, that's understandable. What I don't want is for you to spend months chasing a stage that was never going to pay you — and feel deflated when you discover why.

Here's what I tell my clients: understanding the conference landscape is the first step in building a speaking strategy that actually generates leads and clients. This article will help you see the full picture.


 

Why the Big Names Dominate the Conversation

 

Part of what makes this so confusing is that the marquee events are the ones everyone talks about. They dominate the industry press, the LinkedIn posts, the conference highlight reels.

When you see a speaker's media kit packed with logos from big-name events, it looks like those are the stages that matter most.

But visibility and revenue are two different things. Conflating them is one of the most common mistakes B2B consultants and founders make when building a conference speaking strategy.

The big conferences are loud. They're not necessarily lucrative. And they represent a much smaller slice of the overall events landscape than most people realize.

When you choose conferences based on name recognition alone, you're optimizing for applause rather than pipeline. That's a costly mistake for anyone using speaking for lead generation.


 

The Four-Tier Events Landscape (And Where the Money Actually Flows)

Here's something the speaking industry rarely explains clearly: the companies hosting events — and hiring speakers — don't put all their eggs in the marquee basket. They build portfolios.

Companies distribute their event investment across four tiers, each serving a different strategic purpose. Understanding these tiers is how you shift from chasing stages to choosing the right rooms.

 

Tier 1: Flagship Events (15–20% of budget)

The big swings. Annual conferences, customer summits, signature industry forums. High production value, massive attendance, significant brand visibility. Think Dreamforce, INBOUND, Web Summit.

These events are important — but they're highly competitive for speaker slots, expensive to participate in, and rarely pay expert speakers. For most B2B consultants, the speaking ROI here comes from credibility and access, not a speaker fee.

 

 

 

 

Tier 2: Regional and Thematic Events (40–50% of budget)

This is where the bulk of event investment goes — and where most of the paid speaking opportunities live.

Industry-specific gatherings, regional conferences, customer workshops, and niche summits focused on a particular vertical or function. These events attract highly targeted audiences with strong purchase intent. They want expert speakers, they budget for them, and the audiences are often exactly the decision-makers and buyers you want in the room.

For B2B consultants building a speaking-led pipeline, this tier deserves strong attention.

 

Tier 3: Executive and VIP Experiences (20–25% of budget)

Intimate by design — executive retreats, private roundtables, invitation-only forums. Usually 15 to 30 people in the room.

The cost per attendee is high, but the return is disproportionate because these are the people making decisions. Landing a spot in one of these rooms means speaking directly to buyers, not just practitioners. If you're focused on conference speaking strategy for B2B, this tier is worth actively pursuing—through networking and relationship-building—even if it takes longer to access.

 

Tier 4: High-Frequency Touchpoints (10–15% of budget)

Webinars, virtual events, community meetups, and online forums. Lower production cost, higher frequency. This tier keeps companies and speakers visible between larger events and is often the easiest entry point for building a speaking track record.


 

The Difference Between Chasing Stages and Choosing the Right Rooms

This reframe — from chasing stages to choosing the right rooms — is at the core of what I call Presence-Forward Marketing. It's the difference between treating speaking as a performance and treating it as a pipeline.

Once you see the full landscape, you stop measuring a speaking opportunity by its name recognition and start measuring it by its strategic fit. Instead of asking "how do I get on the big stage?" you start asking better questions: Who is actually in the room at this event? Are these my ideal clients, or adjacent audiences? Is this event investing in expert speakers, or is it primarily a platform for sponsors? What's my plan for generating speaking ROI from this opportunity — whether it pays or not?

That last question matters more than most speakers realize. Because the goal isn't just to get booked. It's to build a speaking pipeline that consistently generates leads and clients.

The business owners who win at this aren't necessarily speaking at the biggest events. They're speaking at the right events — the ones where their ideal clients gather, where the audience is primed to hear their message, and where they have a clear system for converting attention into action.

 

Feature The "Vanity" Approach The "Presence-Forward" Approach
Goal Get on the biggest stage possible. Get in the right room for the buyer.
Metric Number of Instagram tags/Applause. Number of qualified leads/Pipeline.
Payment "Exposure" (Free). Speaking Fee + Client ROI.
Outcome Ego boost. Revenue growth.

 


 

When Big Events Do Make Sense

None of this means you should avoid marquee events entirely. There are legitimate reasons to pursue them, even without a speaker fee.

Credibility is real. Having a recognizable logo on your website or in your bio signals authority in a way that's hard to manufacture. If your ideal clients recognize that brand name, the association matters.

Access matters. Some rooms are only accessible through certain events. If your ideal clients are concentrated at a specific conference — even a no-fee one — being in that room may generate more speaking ROI than a smaller paid engagement elsewhere.

Personal goals count. Wanting to stand on a particular stage because it means something to you is a completely valid reason. You don't have to justify every speaking decision with a revenue calculation.

The distinction I'm drawing isn't "never speak for free." It's "never speak without a strategy." Every stage — paid or unpaid — should have a clear purpose in your business, and a plan for how you'll activate the opportunity once you're in the room.


 

How to Evaluate a Speaking Opportunity Before You Say Yes

When a speaking opportunity lands in front of you — or you're actively pursuing one — here's the framework I use with my clients to evaluate fit:

Audience composition. Who will be in the room? Are they buyers, gatekeepers, champions, or a mix? You talk should cater to who’s in the room—whether you're speaking to decision-makers or the people who report to them.

Event budget and intent. Is this event investing in speakers as a core part of the experience, or are speakers an afterthought? Regional and thematic events (Tier 2) typically treat speakers as central to their value proposition. Flagship events often don't.

Your activation plan. What will you do before, during, and after this event to convert attention into leads? Do you have an audience activator — a resource specifically designed for this talk — that captures interest in the room? Do you have a follow-up system ready?

If you can answer all three questions confidently before you say yes, you're choosing your stages. If you can't, you're chasing them.


 

Building a Conference Speaking Strategy That Converts

The speakers who turn their talks into a reliable source of leads and clients share a few things in common.

They understand the landscape. They know where the paid opportunities live, what the unpaid stages are actually worth, and how to evaluate events before investing their time and energy in pursuing it.

They choose their stages with intention. They're not chasing logos or prestige for its own sake. They're asking whether this audience, this room, and this moment align with where they're trying to take their business.

They show up with a system. They have a signature talk built to generate trust and leads — not just applause. They have an audience activator, a follow-up strategy, and a clear path from "great talk" to "new client."

Speaking is one of the most powerful tools available to B2B consultants and founders. Forty-five minutes of undivided attention from a room full of your ideal clients is something no algorithm can replicate. But that power only converts when you treat speaking as a pipeline, not a performance.

Understanding the events landscape is step one. Choosing the right rooms is step two. Building the system that turns those rooms into revenue — that's what makes speaking sustainable.


 

Frequently Asked Questions

Do speakers get paid at major conferences like INBOUND or Dreamforce? Generally, no. Most marquee industry conferences do not pay expert speakers for breakout sessions, workshops, or tactical talks. Speaker fees at these events are reserved for celebrity keynotes. Speakers at flagship events are compensated with a badge, visibility, and access — not a check.

What types of conferences actually pay speakers?
Regional conferences, industry-specific summits, thematic events, executive forums, and corporate events tend to pay speakers.

How do I know if a speaking opportunity is worth pursuing?
From a Presence-Forward Marketing perspective, consultant Sharí Alexander recommends evaluating it across four factors: audience composition (are these your ideal clients?), event intent (do they invest in speakers?), and your activation plan (do you have a system to convert the room?). If you can answer all three confidently, it's worth pursuing.

What's the difference between speaking for visibility and speaking for lead generation?
Speaking for visibility optimizes for reach and brand recognition — useful, but hard to measure. Speaking for lead generation treats every stage as a pipeline asset: you show up with a specific talk, an audience activator to capture interest, and a follow-up system to convert attendees into clients. The second approach is what produces measurable speaking ROI.

What is Presence-Forward Marketing?
Presence-Forward Marketing is phrase coined by Sharí Alexander of Elevated i. The term encapsulates a speaking-led growth strategy for B2B founders and consultants. Rather than treating speaking as a one-off branding exercise, it's a systematic approach to using speaking engagements as a client acquisition channel — turning stages into a reliable, repeatable source of leads and revenue.


 

What's Next?

If this reframed how you're thinking about your conference speaking strategy, here's how to take the next step.

Subscribe to Presence-Forward Marketing Journal— my weekly newsletter where I break down the strategy behind speaking-led growth for B2B founders, consultants, and executives. Every issue is practical, specific, and built around helping you turn speaking into a reliable source of clients.

 

Or if you're ready to build your speaking strategy now — let's talk. Book a discovery call and we'll map out which rooms actually make sense for your business, and what it would look like to build a system that converts them.

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The Speech-to-Sales System™: Why Speeches Don’t Drive Leads…and What to Do About It

The Speech-to-Sales System™: Why Speeches Don’t Drive Leads…and What to Do About It

The average B2B speaker converts 5% of the room. My clients hit an average of 30%. The difference isn't from improving presentation skills, it's from improving the system.


Most business owners who find their way to my work didn't set out to become speakers. They set out to build something—a business, a practice, a reputation. Somewhere along the way, they discovered that speaking gave them access to rooms, relationships, and results that content marketing alone never could.

And unlike another carousel post or email sequence, speaking feels different. There's something about being in the room—the energy, the connection, the immediacy of it—that lights people up in a way that screens never will.

I think that's because speaking is one of the last truly human marketing channels. In a world where AI can write your emails, generate your social posts, and even clone your voice, standing in front of a room full of people and sharing your ideas is irreplaceable. It's perhaps the one form of marketing that technology will never fully replicate.

When you speak, there's no algorithm between you and your audience. No feed to scroll past. No question about whether your expertise is real. For 20-45 minutes, you have their undivided attention—and by the end, they know you. They've experienced your thinking, your presence, your point of view. The relationship doesn't start at zero; it starts at trust.

That's why speaking fast-tracks relationships in ways that digital marketing simply can't. In B2B especially, where big deals depend on trust and relationships matter deeply to the sales process, a single powerful speech can compress months of nurturing into one afternoon. Introductions are made. Handshakes happen. People who walked in as strangers walk out ready to have real conversations.

For founders and executives who are tired of being tethered to a screen to grow their business—who want a more fulfilling way to build their brand than dancing for algorithms—speaking offers something rare: marketing that actually feels good to do.

Of course, this presence-forward approach isn't for everyone. But in my experience, it should be strongly considered by services businesses (B2B and B2C), SaaS companies, and niche industries selling enterprise-level offers. If you're the founder or have an executive team you can send to events, some pretty powerful things can happen.

The question is: why aren't more speakers seeing results?

The Gap Between the Applause and Your Sales Pipeline

If you've walked off stage to applause, collected business cards, and then watched those leads go cold... you're not alone.

The average B2B speaker converts only 5% of audiences into new leads for their services.

Here's what makes the disconnect so frustrating: speaking should outperform other marketing channels. Consider the comparison:

Channel Average Conversion Rate Engagement Depth Audience Intent
Digital Advertising (PPC) 1.4% – 2.0% Low (Scrolling) Transactional / Cold
Organic Social Content 1.1% – 1.7% Low (Scrolling) Passive / Discovery
Email Marketing (Nurtured) 2.4% – 3.0% Medium Warm / Relationship
Standard B2B Speaking 5.0% High (20-45minutes of attention) Educational / Captive
Speeches using the Speech-to-Sales System™ 30% – 50% Highest (Direct Connection) High-Intent / Qualified

Looking at these numbers, it makes sense why so many people overlook speaking as a pipeline opportunity. If you’re only getting 5% of a 50-person audience, that doesn't seem compelling when compared to 1.5% of tens of thousands.

But what if leads from event audiences could increase by 6x? And wouldn't those inherently be higher-quality leads?

Not only would every audience match your ideal client profile in industry and job title, but you'd also have their full attention for 20-45 minutes. Compare that to algorithm-driven audiences where most people aren't your ICP and your content flashes by in less than two seconds.

To earn 45 minutes of undivided attention from your ideal client online, you're looking at months of nurturing; some estimates suggest a year or more of consistent touch points before a cold prospect is ready to have a real conversation.

How many ads? How many pieces of content? How much budget and team bandwidth?

Or you could give a speech.

And what if I could help you 6x your leads from every speech? Wouldn’t those leads inherently be higher-quality than the ones from cold algo-traffic?

My argument isn't to abandon your company's online marketing. It's to take a strategic look at how speaking could enhance your marketing and sales. For the right people and the right businesses, speaking can be a channel for significant growth.

My clients convert an average 30% of audiences into new leads—some clients even reaching 50-75% conversion rates. Some clients close multi-million dollar deals that are a direct result from single speeches. I’ve had clients who used to get only 3-5 (or even 0) leads from speeches to then consistently getting 20, 30, 75+ warm leads from every speech.

Big deals don't close in comment sections. They close after handshakes, after hallway conversations, after someone sees you command a room and thinks, "I want to work with that person."

A single powerful presence at the right event can cut your sales cycle in half.

This approach isn't for everyone. But if you run a services business, lead a SaaS company, or sell enterprise-level offers in a niche industry — and if you or your executive team can get in front of the right rooms — speaking deserves a serious look.

From small businesses to enterprise sales, leveraging speeches can be a competitive advantage.


Every Speech Has 3 Goals

When preparing to give a speech, you likely focus on one objective: provide value to your audience.

Yes, that should be the primary goal. But it’s not the only one.

If we’re being honest, every speaker giving a speech at conferences, associations, and corporate events has three goals:

  1. To be of service to the audience by providing value
  2. To enjoy the experience
  3. To be of service to the business by generating new clients & customers

The first and third goals are created through craft and strategy. The second is personal preference—though I suspect anyone who chooses to speak does so partly because they enjoy the challenge of creating meaningful speeches and event experiences.

There's also something elegant in how serving your business (goal 3) flows from serving the audience (goal 1). If you don't achieve the first goal, you definitely won't achieve the third. Unfortunately, you can absolutely achieve goal 1 without making a dent in goal 3.

So what gives? How is it that good speeches fail to bring in more business?


Maximizing B2B Speaking ROI

The Real Problem Isn't Your Presentation Skills

"The content is good and I get good feedback. I guess there's something I could be doing better in how I present it.”

This is what the founder of a successful IT company said to me just days after the Chief Revenue Officer of a SaaS startup told me, "I'm sure there's something about our team's presentation skills that could improve."

Each wanted ROI from their speaking opportunities. Each was looking in the wrong place—their presentation skills.

People blame their presentation skills for lackluster results. Why? Probably because they're more familiar with the concept of presentation skills than they are with presentation strategy.

After coaching executive-level speakers for 20 years, I can tell you: your presentation skills are probably fine. Most professionals are good enough speakers to give good enough speeches and still deliver significant results to both the audience and the business.

Assuming you don't struggle with debilitating stage fright or significant impediments, your presentation skills are likely at a perfectly acceptable level.

What's missing is the strategy and system around the talk.


A Lead Generation System for Speakers

The Speech-to-Sales System™

Most B2B speakers put all their focus on the speech. When preparing their remarks and slides, all they're thinking about is what happens between stepping on stage and stepping off.

But if your speech is given with the hope of client acquisition, there's much more strategy you can apply before, during, and after.

Your presence at events is the spark. The Speech-to-Sales System™ is the engine.

Phase 1:

Finding High-Value Stages for B2B Lead Generation

Start by making sure you're in the right rooms—not just any rooms.

Everyone has a big stage dream. One event where it feels like they've "made it" and earned industry-wide respect. Big-name stages are exciting, and speaking there might give you a pop of brand awareness.

But generally speaking, those razzle-dazzle stages aren't your highest-ROI events. And they certainly aren't the only events where your target market is attending.

The Marketplace of Events

One of the first steps I take with my clients is doing event market research on all types of speaking opportunities within their industry:

Large events. Small events. Podcasts. Webinars hosted by non-competing companies. Online communities. Mastermind groups.

When clients see the comprehensive list, their eyes widen. They're surprised to learn how many channels of opportunity exist. There's always one or two events that end up being perfect because the audience and format align so well with the speaker's client avatar and speaking style.

Speech Formats

It’s important to know that “speaking” doesn’t just mean keynotes. It can mean:breakouts, workshops, webinars, training, fireside chats, interviews, AMAs, retreats, internal executive meetings.

Event Audiences

When you create an online ad, you build your own segmented audience. You tell the system your target demographics—geography, education level, household income, and so on.

You can't do that with events. Events have their own audience demographics: their own unique mix of industries, companies, and job titles.

While we'd all love every audience to be filled with buyers and decision makers, that's not always the case. To be more strategic, you need to know when your audiences are majority decision makers and when they're majority champions. Each perceive the same business problem through completely different lenses.

Champions Decision Makers
Relationship to the Problem Feels it directly and daily Broader scope considerations
What They Care About Friction + Pain ROI + Risk
What They Want from You Quick wins + tools Outcomes + growth

Just as you have an Ideal Client Profile (ICP) for your business, you also need an Assembled Audience Profile (AAP) for your speeches. This is how you ensure your speech aligns with both the audience's demographics and psychographics—their thoughts, feelings, and perceptions about the topics discussed at the event.

During this first phase, you want to find alignment among your target events, their assembled audiences, your message, and the services you want to sell.


Phase 2:

The Speech

The speech is the most enjoyable part. (At least, I think so.) This is where craft meets strategy.

But no matter how unique your speech might be, you still need strategy behind it that supports your goals: serve the audience, enjoy the experience, serve the business.

One Clearly-Stated Big Idea

Every effective speech hangs on a single, memorable idea. Not three ideas. Not a buffet of insights. One.

This doesn't mean your speech is simplistic. It means everything you share—your stories, your frameworks, your data—all points back to one central (and memorable) statement. When an audience member describes your talk to a colleague the next day, they should be able to say it in one sentence.

With my methodology, I work with clients to articulate their Big Idea before they write a single slide. If you can't say it clearly, your audience won't remember it clearly.

A Clear Structure

Structure is the invisible architecture that makes your content land. Without it, even brilliant insights feel scattered.

The most effective B2B speeches follow recognizable patterns: problem-solution, before-after, chronological narrative, or framework-based (where you walk through three to five components of a system). The specific structure matters less than having one at all.

Here's what I've noticed: speakers who struggle with "flow" usually don't have a structure problem—they have a Big Idea problem. Once the central argument is clear, structure often reveals itself.

Storytelling

Data informs. Stories transform.

Your audience will forget your statistics within hours. They'll remember your stories for years. The most effective B2B speakers layer both: they use data to establish credibility and stories to create emotional resonance.

The best stories for business speeches aren't dramatic origin stories or vulnerable confessions (though those have their place). They're specific client examples. Before-and-after narratives. Moments where the methodology you're teaching actually worked—or failed in an instructive way.

When I coach clients on storytelling, we focus on concrete details. Not "a client was struggling with sales" but "a SaaS founder in Chicago was watching her close rate drop from 40% to 12% over six months." Specificity creates believability.

Audience Activators for Lead Capture

This is where most speakers drop the ball entirely.

An Audience Activator is a simple, non-pushy resource that allows interested audience members to raise their hand and continue the conversation. It's not a sales pitch. It's not "hire me." It's a natural next step that serves the audience while also serving your business.

Of course, not all activators are created equal. A generic ebook or guide you created 7 years ago won’t convert because it wasn't built for this audience hearing this speech.

The activator should extend the value of your talk, not just exist alongside it. A checklist that helps them implement what you taught, a diagnostic tool, an expanded framework, or access to an event. Something useful enough that giving you their contact information feels like a fair trade.

During this second phase, you're building a speech that educates, entertains, and engages, while also creating a clear path for interested people to continue the relationship.


Phase 3:

Getting More Sales from Speaking

Most speakers treat the speech as the main event and everything else as optional. But those 20-45 minutes on stage are just a small part of your sales opportunity.

Before: Building Anticipation

The sales process starts before you step on stage.

When you're confirmed for an event, you have a window of opportunity that most speakers waste. Posting on social media isn't just about promoting yourself—it's about priming the audience. When people see your content before your session, they're more likely to attend, more likely to pay attention, and more likely to remember you afterward.

I encourage clients to research who’s attending and connect with prospects on LinkedIn before the event. Not to pitch, but just to introduce yourself and share what you’re looking forward to at the event. This small touchpoint means you're not a stranger when you take the stage.

You can also post teasers about your topic: a surprising statistic, a contrarian take, a question that your speech will answer. This creates anticipation and positions your session as a must-attend.

During: Capturing Interest

This is where your Audience Activator comes into play, but it's not the only in-speech sales moment.

How you introduce yourself and establish your credibility without sounding like a résumé recitation matters a lot. Weave your expertise into a brief story or observation rather than listing credentials.

How you close matters even more. Your final minutes should be some of the most memorable. And there should be a clear invite to next steps. Not a hard sell, but a clear articulation of what the Activator is and why it's valuable. I've watched speakers give incredible talks and then mumble through their call-to-action like they're embarrassed by it. Don't be. You've earned the right to offer something valuable.

After: Converting While Interest Is Warm

This is where the real work happens—and where most drop the ball.

You need systems in place to convert interest while it's still warm.

Automated follow-up sequences

Everyone who downloads your Activator should receive a pre-built email sequence that continues the conversation. Not aggressive sales emails—valuable content that reinforces your speech and gently moves toward a next step.

Personalized outreach

For high-value contacts, generic automation isn't enough. Within 48 hours of your speech, you should be sending personal notes to the people who engaged most—those who asked questions, approached you afterward, or fit your ideal client profile. A short, specific message referencing something from the event shows you're paying attention.

Content repurposing

Your speech is a content goldmine. A single talk has the potential to fill a year’s worth of content—from blog posts, to newsletters, to social posts, videos and more. When your audience sees your ideas again in their feed, it keeps you top of mind.

Event-specific visibility

Post about the event itself. Share photos, tag the organizers, thank the audience. It signals to everyone who attended (and everyone who follows the event) that you were there and that it mattered.

Once you've captured and nurtured leads, your company's natural sales cycle takes over. But without this infrastructure, warm interest cools off fast.


Why a Systematic Approach is the Key to Speaking ROI

Speaking is one of the most powerful ways to generate clients when it's treated as a system rather than a series of one-off events.

Speakers who convert 30% of the room instead of 5% aren't doing anything magical. They've just made strategic decisions to systematize what most people leave to chance: choosing the right stages, building talks that generate hand-raisers, and converting interest before it fades.

You now see something most speakers don't. You understand that the ROI problem isn't about charisma or presentation polish—it's about infrastructure. The speech is the spark; the system is what turns sparks into fire.

Your talk is probably fine. Your system might be what's missing.


What's Next

If you're speaking regularly but aren't seeing it convert into real client work, there's a gap somewhere in your system.

Maybe it's stage selection. Maybe it's the absence of an Audience Activator. Maybe warm interest is cooling before you follow up.

The Speech-to-Sales Playbook is a master checklist covering everything to do before, during, and after your presentations. It's designed to work as a template for any speaking opportunity: keynotes, workshops, webinars, podcasts, or executive meetings.

Inside, you'll find:

  • Pre-event preparation tasks to build anticipation and prime your audience
  • In-speech strategies for credibility, engagement, and lead capture
  • Post-event follow-up sequences to convert interest while it's warm

[Download the Speech-to-Sales Playbook →]

And if you want help mapping where you are now and having a Speech-to-Sales System™ for your business, book a discovery call. We can think through it together.


Frequently Asked Questions

What is the Speech-to-Sales System™?

The Speech-to-Sales System™ is a three-phase framework developed by Sharí Alexander for turning speaking engagements into predictable client acquisition. The three phases are Stages (choosing the right rooms), Speech (building talks that generate hand-raisers), and Sales (converting interest into pipeline and content).

How do I convert speaking engagements into clients?

To convert speaking engagements into clients, you must implement a Speech-to-Sales System™ that manages the before, during, and after of a presentation. This means selecting stages where actual buyers are present, designing your speech to generate hand-raisers with a clear Audience Activator, and having pre-built follow-up sequences ready to convert interest before it fades.

What's a good conversion rate for B2B speaking?

The average B2B speaker converts about 5% of an audience into leads. With a systematic approach like the Speech-to-Sales System™, speakers who have worked with Sharí Alexander see 30% of audiences opt in, with some events reaching 50–75% conversion rates.

Why aren't my speaking engagements generating leads?

Most speakers struggle with lead generation because they're chasing prestigious stages instead of buyer-filled rooms, being reactive to opportunities instead of proactive, and lacking standardized follow-up systems. The talk itself is usually fine—what's missing is the strategy and system around it.

What is an Audience Activator?

An Audience Activator is a phrase coined by Sharí Alexander to describe a simple, non-pushy mechanism within your speech that allows interested audience members to raise their hand and continue the conversation. It's designed to capture warm interest without turning your presentation into a sales pitch.

What is presence-forward marketing?

Presence-forward marketing is a strategy developed by Sharí Alexander that prioritizes in-person visibility—particularly speaking engagements—as a primary channel for client acquisition. Rather than relying solely on digital content that competes with algorithms, presence-forward marketing leverages the trust, credibility, and relationship acceleration that happens when you're physically in the room with your ideal clients. It's especially effective for B2B services businesses, SaaS companies, and consultants selling high-value offers where relationships drive the sales process.

Why One Speech Should Become Three: A Specialization Strategy

Why One Speech Should Become Three: A Specialization Strategy

[FROM THE ELEVATED i NEWSLETTER]

“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.” — Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention.” — Herbert A. Simon


The Problem: One Talk, Too Much Information

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes I spot when working with a new client is that they try to fit a course’s worth of information into a single speech.

Chances are, your signature speech might actually have three speeches’ worth of content.

Realizing that is good news for two reasons:

  1. This could unlock why past speeches fell short of bringing in more leads (even though it felt like a solid speech).
  2. Looking ahead to 2026, you can deconstruct your current speech and have THREE speeches to offer events

If you feel like there’s something paradoxical about having a value-packedspeech that doesn't result in new leads or clients, you'd be 100% correct.

Logic would tell us that the more we put into a speech, the more compelled audiences will be to work with you.

But, alas.

We humans aren’t known for our rational decisions and behaviors.

In marketing, this phenomenon is often referred to as The Paradox of Choice. 

Distilled: when you present people with too many options (or too much information), they will choose status quo—making no decision and taking no action.


How Cognitive Overload Kills Your Lead Generation

Common side effects of a should-be-3-speeches speech:

  • The audience experiences cognitive overload
  • They feel a need to process the information or “do some homework” before they’re "ready" to work with you
  • They are confused about what you actually do and provide (even though they learned things)
  • They’re exhausted
  • They checked out
  • They learned some new perspectives and “nice reminders” but they didn’t understand precisely how to apply it in their life/business.

When it comes to speaking, the more that's added, the less that sticks.

So, rather than trying to talk faster, there’s a better solution.


Specialize Into Three Focused Talks

Specialize the speech.

What you think is one signature talk could be 3-5 strong, specific talks.

And now is a excellent time to specialize your speech because (thanks to AI) people can find solid, overview-style answers to plenty of questions and problems. 

Which means, today’s audiences are expecting (practically demanding) that speakers dive deep into topics.

We’re talkin’ nuanced.

We’re talkin’ niched.

We’re talkin’ “tell me perspectives and insights a robot can’t.” 

The win isn’t “cover everything.” It’s to go deep on one thing that matters.

Here’s another great reason to split your speech....

When you talk to meeting planners, you can offer 3 strong options instead of just one. It moves the conversation from “if” to “which.”

And who knows, they might want to book you for multiple engagements. 

Giving you more stage time with your ideal audiences.


Questions to Identify Your Talk Suite

Is your talk trying to do too much?

Ask yourself:

  • Can I state the one outcome in a single sentence without “and/also”?
  • Are there 3 distinct audiences who’d need different examples, context, stories, jargon, or metrics?
  • Do I have more than 2 frameworks in my speech?
  • Have you ever not gotten through all your slides?

If you can say yes to any of these, then you might have a suite, not a single.


Real-World Examples of Speech Specialization

  • We specialized Ben’s speeches into three audience types: individuals (professional development), organizations (cultural shifts), and men- or women-focused groups.
  • Eric shifted from broad marketing overviews to narrow marketing topics.
  • Elisabeth’s speech had a six-part framework. It was difficult to cover all six in shorter speeches, so we grouped them into three categories. That way she could drill deep into certain ones and lightly cover others. Plus, each category can be its own specialized speech.

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What I Actually Read: 33 Books on Speaking, Business & Presence

What I Actually Read: 33 Books on Speaking, Business & Presence

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"The reading of all good books is like a conversation with the finest minds of past centuries." — Descartes

"I have never let my schooling interfere with my education." — Mark Twain


Thank you to everyone who responded to my last issue. At the end of the featured article, I asked subscribers if you’d be interested in my book recommendations list and I was pleased by the enthusiastic responses!

Below are 33 books that have shaped my life and my profession. I’ve put them into 7 categories so you can skip to the sections that interest you most.

We start off with books that help you in the craft of writing, then move into improving overall communication skills, then wrap up with some business memoirs and philosophies on a well-lived life.

If you have a favorite book that’s not listed, reply to this email and let me know! I’d love to add some goodies to my reading list. 🤓


A Writer’s Mindset, Also Helpful in Business

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield  
My most re-read book. Pressfield teaches us that resistance is a force that shows up whenever you're about to level-up, whether it’s in creative pursuits, business growth, or any adventure worth taking. This book reframes resistance from an enemy to a compass—a signal saying you're on the right track. Just push through.

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott  
Embrace the shitty first draft, break big projects into short assignments, and focus on the frame in front of you. The lessons apply far beyond writing.

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron  
Morning Pages, unlike journaling where you recount the day, is where you dump the head junk, gain clarity. It’s also a great mental health practice. Helps you act with intention—from decision-making to content creation to difficult conversations.

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert  
Fear will always be part of any creative or business journey. Gilbert's gift is teaching you to let fear come along for the ride without letting it steer.


Master Your Message

On Writing Well by William Zinsser  
A must for anyone who considers themselves a writer. The writing in this book—both his and the examples he shares—always inspire. Clear writing is clear thinking. Zinsser offers the best practical guide on how to improve your writing.

Made to Stick by Chip & Dan Heath  
This book breaks down the anatomy of memorable messages and gives you a framework to make sure your core idea is what people remember.

Storyworthy by Matthew Dicks  
If you want to get into the nitty gritty of excellent storytelling, this is your book. Dicks teaches you how to find stories and craft them so they land.

On Public Speaking & Presenting (from Harvard Business Review)  
A collection of essays on the craft of presenting. The best entry is the first one—How to Give a Killer Presentation by Chris Anderson, founder of TEDTalks.

The Referable Speaker by Michael Port
Written for those who want to be professional speakers, Port teaches you how to position yourself and show up in ways that make people advocate for you—the strategic difference between a one-time speaking gig and a reliable pipeline of opportunities. Plenty of insights into the business of speaking.

Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller  
Always make your audience the hero. This book teaches you to position your clients as the protagonist and yourself as the guide on their journey. This mindset will serve you in clarifying your speeches, funnels, sales calls, and web copy.

Sense & Style by Steven Pinker  
If you really want to nerd out on writing, check this one out. Pinker’s motivation for this book came from having to read countless academic papers that were bloated with jargon and poor sentence construction. Sins also found in business works.


Influential Communication

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
A timeless classic, and with good reason. The communication foundation that every one should have.

Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss  
Voss (a former FBI negotiator) teaches emotional intelligence in high-stakes conversations—directly applicable whether you're closing a client or navigating a speaking engagement.

The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier  
This book teaches you the discipline of curiosity—how to coach your clients, your team, and the room toward their own breakthroughs.

Pitch Anything by Oren Klaff  
Grab attention, frame the narrative, and close when it counts.

Secrets of Power Negotiating by Roger Dawson  
A punchier version of Voss’s negotiation book, but still tactical, practical, and street-tested. Dawson gives you the moves and counter-moves that shift leverage in your favor.

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg  
The title is a bit of a misfire, but the content is pure gold. Communication grounded in empathy and honesty. This book teaches you how to express what you need and hear what others actually need—foundational for authentic presence, genuine connection, and collaboratively finding solutions.

The Power of Moments by Chip & Dan Heath  
This book teaches you how to design experiences and engineering memorable moments.


Leadership, Entrepreneurship, & Business

The Daily Drucker by Peter Drucker  
Drucker is the original systems thinker. These daily excerpts distill decades of management wisdom into bite-sized clarity. Essential for leaders who want to think strategically about their business, not just react to it.

It Doesn't Have to Be Crazy at Work by Jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson  
Burnout is not a badge of honor. Fried and Hansson show how to build a sustainable, profitable business without sacrificing your sanity or your team's. A rebellion against hustle culture.

How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis 
Dennis cuts through the romantic mythology of entrepreneurship. His advice pulls no punches and is grounded in decades of building real wealth.

Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull  
How do you build an organization where creativity thrives? Catmull's story of Pixar is a masterclass in culture, systems, and the discipline required to do great work consistently.

Shoe Dog by Phil Knight  
Knight's memoir of building Nike is a study in persistence, vision, and the unglamorous grind of building something real. A reminder that every business, no matter how iconic, started with someone willing to stay the course.


Personal Performance

Atomic Habits by James Clear  
It’s been on everyone's “Top 10” productivity/habits list for a decade for a reason.

Procrastination by Jane B. Burka, PhD and Lenora M. Yuen, PhD  
Provides insights into the psychology behind procrastination. Helps you get to root causes instead of only combating symptoms.

The Gap & the Gain by Dan Sullivan & Benjamin Hardy  
For those measuring themselves against an impossible standard. Sullivan and Hardy teach you to measure progress instead—the shift from "I'm still not where I want to be" to "look at how far I've come." Essential mindset staying resilient in a growth journey.


Mindset & Philosophy

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius  
A journal written by an emperor who’s trying to keep his head on straight among political pressures and the weight of the world on his shoulders. Ancient wisdom about what you can control and what you can't.

The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt  
Haidt synthesizes ancient wisdom and modern psychology to produce a practical theory on happiness.

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl  
Psychologist Viktor Frankl survived the unthinkable as a prisoner at Auschwitz. This book teaches you that your ability to choose your response—to your circumstances, your audience, your fear—is the most powerful thing you own.

The Choice by Edith Eva Eger  
Lesser known than Frankl's work, this book comes from another Holocaust survivor and psychologist, but a very different reading experience. Eger shares her personal story from her time inside a concentration camp and the trauma’s residual effects in the decades that followed. Beautiful insights on the choices within your control.

Mindset by Carol Dweck  
Your beliefs about ability shape your reality. Dweck's fixed vs. growth mindset framework is foundational.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK by Mark Manson  
My favorite takeaway: problems are inevitable, so choose problems you enjoy solving. Manson's counterculture approach to self-help is refreshing. (Honestly, I snubbed my nose at the one and didn’t read it for years. As Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman, “Big mistake. Huge.”)


Honorable Mention

Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed  
Wisdom delivered with compassion and no bullshit. Strayed's collection from her advice column is funny, heartbreaking, and beautifully written.

How One Founder Landed Speaking Gigs with McKinsey, Cisco, and Zillow in 3 Just Weeks

How One Founder Landed Speaking Gigs with McKinsey, Cisco, and Zillow in 3 Just Weeks

Most entrepreneurs wait until they “feel ready” to pursue speaking opportunities. Until they have the perfect talk title, a speaker reel, or a big enough audience.

Ming Cheng didn’t wait.

Instead, she acted. And within three weeks, she booked speaking gigs with McKinsey, Cisco, and Zillow, and turned some of those talks into clients.

No reel. No massive following. No fancy tools.

Just strategy and speed.

In April, I delivered a program on "Speak Once, Convert for Months." One of the attendees was Ming, founder of a sustainable office supplies company. Three weeks later, we crossed paths in person at Startup Grind Austin. Ming came up to me after the event and shared how much she loved my approach to presence-forward marketing, especially the idea of turning real-life interactions into business opportunities.

But that wasn’t the best part of our conversation.

She then told me how she took what she learned, implemented it, and crushed it. In just three short weeks, Ming had booked speaking opportunities with McKinseyCisco, and Zillow.

Naturally, I invited her to share the full story (and her strategy).

Here are the highlights from my conversation with Ming.


Contacting ERG Leads

As a former ERG lead herself, Ming knew that ERG leads are a great way to gain access into her target market—large companies with office buildings to manage.

If you're not familiar, ERG stands for Employee Resource Group. There are internal communities within companies, often organized around shared interests like sustainability, DEI, or professional development. An ERG lead is the employee who helps coordinate events and initiatives for that group.

Ming wisely pointed out that ERG leaders often struggle to find engaging speakers and event ideas. When she was in that role, she would’ve loved for someone to offer a helpful, ready-to-go program—so that’s exactly what she now offers.

In her outreach, she:

  • Offers to speak for free (because landing a client is worth more than a speaking fee)
  • Chooses a topic aligned with the ERG’s values
  • Adds a raffle prize to boost event attendance

It’s a playbook that’s working exceptionally well for her.

Cold Outreach

Ming naturally reached out to her network first. When that dried up, she did cold outreach. Bravely and strategically.

ERG lead isn’t usually a job title, and it’s rarely listed in someone’s bio. But Ming cracked the code by using LinkedIn search terms like "Green Team Lead." Even when the results weren’t obvious, she read profiles, posts, and comments to piece together who was likely the right contact.

Then she used a chrome extension Apollo (new to me!) to find their emails and sent short pitches. The whole process took her about 30 minutes per contact—and she did it all without using Sales Navigator!

The result? Ming booked a speaking gig with the McKinsey, one of the largest and most well-known consulting firms.

Even crazier, the speech was 48 hours later! It was a 15-minute speech and McKinsey is already a client for her sustainable office supplies service.

(So now you see what I mean when I say Ming crushed it!)

With that boost of confidence, Ming has gone on and used this playbook to spark conversations with Bain, Zillow, Pinterest, Microsoft, Waymo, Cisco (who she's already delivered another speech for), Reddit, and Atlassian.

Networking

Ming isn’t relying solely on cold outreach—she’s networking like a champ. She regularly attends Austin-based events, and many of those have opened doors with large companies as well.

The One Regret

Ming's one regret is that she didn't record the McKinsey speech. She nailed the talk and the audience was highly engaged, but she has no footage to show for it. Moving forward, she's going to prioritize recording future talks so that she can repurpose them for content and outreach.

No Need for a Speaker Reel

Let me underline this point: Ming did all of this without a speaker reel.

I hear from a lot of entrepreneurs who think they need one before they can start speaking. But of all the speaking engagements Ming has landed, only one person asked for a sample recording.

She didn’t have a flashy sizzle reel—just a Zoom recording from years ago and a slide deck. And that was enough to get booked.

So yes, it’s helpful to have a talk recording in your back pocket—but it doesn’t need to be high-production. A webinar, recorded speech, or podcast interview can absolutely do the job.

Follow-Up Strategy

After each talk, Ming follows up. She doesn’t just say thanks and hope for the best—she stays proactive and starts sales conversations.

She researches the company, identifies the person she wants to meet (like a facilities or office manager), and asks the event host:“Would you be willing to connect me?”

Then she gives them a short list of 3–5 names. And… they say yes.

She's building relationships and her speeches are the catalyst.


 

Speaking Success Doesn’t Require Fancy Tools. Just Follow-Through

If you've been waiting until you have the perfect reel or the perfect pitch, let Ming be your proof: you can start now.

What she’s doing isn’t flashy. It’s focused.

Her system works because she’s aligned her message with her audience, shows up consistently, and takes proactive steps to turn her speeches into sales conversations.

If you’ve been wondering whether speaking can really lead to high-profile clients: yes, it can.

If you’ve been telling yourself you need to wait until everything’s polished: no, you don’t.

What you do need is a message that opens doors, a plan that gets you in the room, and a follow-up strategy that turns those rooms into revenue.

And if you'd like help creating that strategy, you know where to find me.

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Sharí Alexander helps B2B entrepreneurs and executives turn speaking engagements into more clients, without turning their talk into a sales pitch. Her clients routinely turn presentations into pipeline: about 30% of attendees raise a hand afterward—roughly 6× the industry benchmark.

This article was originally published in the Presence-Forward Marketing Newsletter.