Discovering Your Inner Voice: The Benefits of a Pocket Dimension

Discovering Your Inner Voice: The Benefits of a Pocket Dimension

Every day, I reach for my phone, open Telegram, and record a voice message that gets sent into a Pocket Dimension. But before I can explain what the Pocket Dimension is, please allow me to take you back to 2012 in West Hollywood at a rooftop yoga workshop where I met Sabrina.

The event was sponsored by Lululemon and had everything you want from a Hollywood adjacent gathering. Beautiful views of the city. A yoga instructor that was both edgy and chill. A shavasana accompanied by a professional didgeridoo player. And, of course, socializing with free cocktails afterwards.

Sabrina and I hit it off right away. We both were originally from Oklahoma, building our coaching practices, and she liked my Darth Vader t-shirt. We became friends and would occasionally help each other brainstorm solutions to business challenges.

Six years later, she’s now the person I talk to on basically a daily basis as we hop into our Pocket Dimension, where we hold each other accountable to our goals, confess our challenges, and celebrate our wins.

What started as a simple accountability-buddy process, became a safe place for simply processing out loud. Our voice messages and texts, while still focus on our daily tasks, also became a space where we could hear ourselves think. Literally.

And so, a Pocket Dimension is simply a place where you can slow down and think out loud. And when you continue the practice, you’ll likely experience the following:

Hear Yourself Think, Hear Your Intuition

Sometimes, all you need is just a moment to hear yourself think. External processing in a Pocket Dimension helps you get out of your head and hear your intuition. Talking out your thoughts helps you tune into what your gut has been trying to tell you all along.

Pattern Recognition

Consistently popping into the Pocket Dimension helps you notice underlying patterns - both good and bad. Once you've avoided the same type of task enough times, you start considering ways to delegate it. Once you've struggled to get results from a team member enough times, you consider new approaches on how to connect and communicate with them. Once you've put a "game-changing" project on the back burner enough times, you get curious about what the real resistance is.

One of the best parts about the Pocket Dimension is that it reveals what you truly enjoy doing and what you're really good at (and should probably be doing more of). The Pocket Dimension helps you see what should be delegated and where you should be putting more of your time and energy. Seeing patterns means you can either break them, change them, or even duplicate them when they're serving you!

Word Choice Awareness

Noticing your language patterns helps you be a more mindful communicator. Your words matter. When your past word choices haven't gotten the results you're looking for, the Pocket Dimension helps you ask:

    • Is there a different way to describe this?

    • What reframe could make this more enticing/fun/positive/etc?

    • Am I describing this in a way that serves me? My audience? My team?

The Pocket Dimension is a place where you can be messy with your words so that your words can be used with more intention when you're back in the "real" world. It's a safe space to explore your thoughts, feelings, and ideas without fear of judgment or interruption. I’m grateful to have Sabrina as my Pocket Dimension buddy.

If you have a friend or colleague who could also benefit from a little accountability, try using an app like Telegram for consistent check-ins. The practice might help you both in more ways than one.

Authenticity in Thought Leadership: Why Trusting Your Voice is More Important Than Mimicking Others

Authenticity in Thought Leadership: Why Trusting Your Voice is More Important Than Mimicking Others

Finding and using an authentic voice in thought leadership is more difficult than marketing gurus let on. From small businesses to big corporations, everyone wants to represent and promote their brand in authentic ways. 

But TRUSTING your authentic voice takes more bravery than most people (and brands) are willing to risk.

Case in point…

 

Trusting Your Talent

Over the past few years, Disney has produced a number of live-action recreations of their nostalgic masterpieces from The Disney Renaissance era.

The Disney Renaissance era refers to 1989-1999 when Howard Ashman and Alan Menken created Disney classics like The Little Mermaid, The Lion King, and Beauty and the Beast. It’s low hanging fruit for Disney to capitalize on the nostalgia of parents who want to share Disney moments with their kids.

But Disney has struggled in finding an authentic voice for quite a few of the remakes. Aladdin being a perfect example.  

The role of “Genie” was tailored for Robin Williams. His ad libbed humor created a one-of-a-kind character. In the live action remake, Will Smith and the production team took on the challenge of recreating the unique and iconic role. And the struggle is obvious in "Friend Like Me", the song that introduces “Genie”.

“Friend Like Me” is Robin Williams. But the movie team still went with a shot-for-shot remake of the number. And it falls short. (How could it not?) They were willing to veer away from the original when they added a new song for "Jasmine" and a dance number for a new party scene, but not when it came to Will Smith's opening song. the remake included an additional song for “Jasmine” and a new dance number at a party. But they didn’t for Will Smith’s opening song. Why?

After all, the soundtrack for the film's end credits is “Friend Like Me”, but it’s a Will Smith version - adding a hip hop beat and using Smith’s talents that made him a Grammy-winning artist. So, it begs the question, “Why was Smith’s version not used in the film?!”

Because Disney wasn’t brave enough to lean into their talent's authentic voice. They weren’t brave enough to say to the audience, "Hey, Audience. We know you loved Robin's version. And now, we’re hoping you'll enjoy Will's version, too."

Instead, they said, "Who doesn't love the classics?! Am I right?!" 

So, they created Will’s best attempt at Robin’s song. 

Imitation over creation.

Breaking the Habit of Marketing Mimicry

If Disney uses copying as a safe bet, then why wouldn’t you?! Why wouldn’t you look at examples of marketing in your industry and use those as a template? It's probably the safer bet, right?

Copying “successful” approaches happens all the time.

It's scare when you infuse your authentic voice in marketing because the marketing could fail. And if your marketing fails *with* your authentic voice...does that make you a failure? 

Ouch. Lots of ouches. Most people aren’t willing to *risk* those kinds of ouches. 

Mimicking another’s voice (or marketing approach) subconsciously shields yourself from the fear of personal failure. And that’s ok. In fact, it’s normal to try out other brand styles.

(Just be warned. Sticking with another’s voice for too long makes it very easy for imposter syndrome to creep in and make it even more difficult to create content.)

"Proven" paths to success often overlook context. And context is critical. Another person’s success is the result of their talents, their life stages, resources at their disposal, their support systems, their available time, their motivations, ....the list goes on and on!

The goal is to find inspiration, and then make it your own.

What It Takes to Be a Thought Leader with an Authentic Voice

If you want to create content that positions you as thought leader, an existential crisis (or two) are bound to show up. Why? Because, you discover your authentic voice by answering some pretty deep questions:

  • Who am I?
  • What makes me special?
  • What do I stand for?
  • How do I want to show up in the world?

And if you’ve soul-searched your way to those answers and create like you  and teaching like you (and no one else), then you deserve a freakin’ parade! One in the likeness of Prince Ali's.

[This article was inspired by this video from Sideways. His channel has been well worth the embarrassing amount of time I've spent watching his videos.]

Three Essentials for a Successful Thought Leadership Strategy

Three Essentials for a Successful Thought Leadership Strategy

Thought Leadership is a unique approach to content marketing that focuses on establishing your and your brand as an authority in your industry. While there are similarities between Thought Leadership and Influencer marketing, there are also key differences that set them apart. Below are three essentials for a successful thought leadership strategy that can help you to create a bigger impact while serving your business and your customers.

INTEGRATED: Crossover between Online & IRL

Thought Leaders want their content to turn into sales conversations, which is why they focus on driving their audience to take action outside of any given platform. This sets them apart from Influencers, who tend to keep their audience engaged on platforms to increase ad revenue and sponsorships. However, simply adding a call-to-action at the end of an article or video is unlikely to drive significant conversions.

To be successful, Thought Leaders need to create a planned customer journey that guides prospects towards booking an appointment. This can be achieved by planning a sequence of posts and articles that lead your through a series of problems and solutions, ultimately encouraging them to take action. By creating a crossover between your online efforts and your real-world interactions, you can build stronger relationships with your audience and drive more sales conversations.

SCALABLE: Sustain Your Voice While Sustaining Your Sanity

One of the biggest challenges for Thought Leaders is to maintain their unique approach and communication style as they scale their content marketing efforts. To be successful, you need to have systems in place that allow you to be creative while still giving you time to run your business.

First, you need to capture and sort your ideas using an app that works across all your devices and allows you to easily sort through your ideas with tags or categories. You also need to manage your creation time effectively by blocking off time for drafting, editing, and finalizing your content. Finally, you should automate your content creation and lead capture process to reduce the manual workload.

AUTHENTIC: Protecting the Soul of Your Message

Authenticity is essential for successful Thought Leadership. Your prospects want to connect with your voice, style, perspective, and mission. To be successful, you need to turn inward and create content that reflects your unique voice and perspective.

While it's important to stay aware of what your competitors are doing, you need to let go of the comparison mindset when it's time to create your content. Your ideal clients will connect with your work because it resonates with them on a deeper level. By focusing on your authentic voice and mission, you can create content that truly stands out and builds a strong connection with your audience.

By creating an integrated, scalable, and authentic Thought Leadership strategy, you can create a bigger impact in your industry and build a more influential voice. By serving your customers while serving your business, you can create content that truly resonates and drives more sales conversations.

How to Use Your If’s Responsibly

How to Use Your If’s Responsibly

This time of year, we all become time travelers. Faster than the speed of light, one's mind can bounce to what was, and then jump to what could be. It's an emotional mixed bag. Remembering, savoring, regretting, grieving, celebrating.

Looking back helps us learn from challenges we weren't prepared for.

And looking forward helps us prepare for the challenges we're excited to take on.

Of course, if we've learned anything from Time Cop, Looper, Star Trek, and Doctor Who, it's that time travel is a tricky business.

A great responsibility rests on your shoulders, Time Cadet.

As you bravely bounce through your timeline, beware. Your travels give you an opportunity to discover a fulfilling future, and while also running the risk of getting stuck in your past.

One of the easiest ways to time travel is with the word "if" - specifically in two phrases:

  • "What if..."
  • and "If only..."

To safely trek through your personal dimensions of time and space, use your "if's" wisely.

 

LOOKING AHEAD

"What if..." is inherently imaginative.

When you ask "What if...?," you're considering possibilities. Exploring new, innovative, and maybe even crazy ideas. You're imagining.

"What if..." is a phrase for thinking about the future. "What if..." helps you consider ideas beyond current realities and resources. You can get to those later. "What if..." helps you color outside the lines.

Enjoy your "What if..." explorations! Take a long walk with "What if" before you bounce back to the here and now.

And if you feel yourself being pulled back to the present too soon on your journey, just reply with a smile, "Yeah, but what if...?"

LOOKING BACK

Any exploration comes with its own risks. And "if's" can get dangerous when traveling to the past. Especially when you say, "If only..."

"If only's" can spin you in circles and set you up for an Inception-esque ending.

"If only this happened instead of that, then things would be different (better)." 

That's a recipe for heartache.

We are only observers of our past. No longer participants.

Our brains are too primal for us to become mini-gods when considering past events. You can never know which circumstances would have lead to which outcomes. There are too many variables. Too many unknowns.

Doing a hindsight-ed "Choose Your Own Adventure" just isn't in the cards.

If circumstances were different, you don't know what the results might have been. You don't know what you might have adapted to, sacrificed, resented, or lost. You can't predict your personal butterfly effect.

As Michael Jordan once said, you'll never see the flipside of if.

 

SAFE TIME TRAVELS

Time travel is a scary business. The future holds hope and worry. The past holds grievances and lessons.

During this time of time travel, use your if's wisely. When you do, your reflections of your past can clarify your visions for the future.

Stay safe in your timeline. Things can get a bit wibbly-wobbly in the timey-whimey.

Good journey, my friend.

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Sharí Alexander
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How to Request Time to Think: Phrases for When You Don’t Know How to Respond…Yet

How to Request Time to Think: Phrases for When You Don’t Know How to Respond…Yet

Part of being an influential communicator is knowing the difference between responding versus reacting.

A reaction stems from assumptions, subconscious communication habits, and unexamined emotions. A response is the result of reflection and consideration of multiple perspectives.

What typically distinguishes a response versus a reaction? Pause.

In the past few decades, time for pause has been bogarted by technology.

It's easy to lose sight of how much technology has trained us to be reactionary. Our devices and their software are designed to get reactions from us:

  • Text message alerts
  • Email alerts
  • Social media alerts
  • News alerts

We’re always ready and alert for anything that needs our instant "response" - ahem, reaction.

Now, time for pause has to be claimed. Requests for a pause will help you return with thoughtful responses.

Phrases for Requesting Time to Respond

We all have the personal responsibility to communicate a need for pause - to let others know that you want to show up fully, wholeheartedly, and mindfully to the conversation.

Every situation has its own nuances. To help you get started, here are a few easy phrases you can use as a springboard in different situations for when you need to request time to think.

Requesting Time to Think at Work:

  • "I would like some time to take this under consideration."
  • "Please give me time to review this for when I have a bit more bandwidth."
  • "I'd appreciate the time to think this over."

Requesting Time to Think at Home:

  • "I need a moment to take a breath."
  • "I'd appreciate some space to process everything."
  • "I feel like I need my thoughts to catch up to my feelings. Can we please revisit this sometime soon".

Requesting Time to Think on Social Media:

I have seen different examples of when someone expressed a need to pause on an online platform. If you'd like to make a request for space on social media - either in a particular thread or from your entire online presence - then feel free to find your own personal mix using the phrases above in either category.

As a caveat, I don't necessarily think you need to apply the same "rules" to social media as you would for 1-1 interactions. If you feel an aspect of your social media has taken a toxic turn, consider not engaging further until you feel it's right for you.

 

Accepting Requests for Time to Think

If you see the value in taking a pause for yourself, then please honor the request when it’s made by someone else. Time to think helps us all have mindful conversations. Pauses help us get through thoughts and emotions that come from fears or defensives that want to react with a potentially harmful consequences. Time to think helps us avoid saying words we wish we could take back. Time to think helps us find the words for creation, connection, opportunity, innovation, healing, and motivation. 

Mindful conversations follow requests and acceptance for a pause.

Sharí Alexander

Sharí Alexander

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