How to Pitch Yourself for Speaking Engagements: Tips for Entrepreneurs and Executives

How to Pitch Yourself for Speaking Engagements: Tips for Entrepreneurs and Executives

Speaking engagements offer a powerful platform to amplify your influential voice, offer value, and attract new business. However, there’s an art to pitching yourself as a speaker that gets meeting planners excited to bring you into their programming. In this article, I’ll walk you through how to effectively pitch yourself for keynote, panel, or breakout speaking opportunities, with tips and tactics that will ensure your pitch stands out from the crowd.

Understanding How the Events and Conference Industry Works

There are many types of events where you could be a valuable speaker, and understanding some of the nuances of each event type will help you determine how and when you should pitch.

Larger conferences (1,000+ attendees) typically start scouting for speakers 6-10 months prior to the event.

Internal corporate training events tend to seek speakers about 2-3-months before their event date.

Local and regional associations that host regular meetings will be looking for speakers 2-6 months out, depending on how their board is run.

These general guidelines offer a solid foundation, but always be aware of exceptions. Knowing these timelines helps you stay ahead and align your marketing and outreach with an organizations call for speakers and speaker selection.

The Call for Speakers Process

Both conferences and smaller events often have a formal Call for Speakers process, which is when event planners publicly request speaker applications. Here’s what you should know:

  • Submission Portals: Many conferences have dedicated portals for speaker applications. Pay attention to specific instructions, deadlines, and format requirements. If you’re someone who wants to speak often, it’s a good idea to have pre-planned answers for common questions. You can then tweak your responses with AI tools and tailor your answers to the specific event for more personal customization.
  • Be Concise and Compelling: Submissions usually have strict word limits for speech titles, descriptions, and key takeaways (more on these coming up). Once again, AI tools have thankfully made this process easier as you can customize your answers to match their specific parameters. Make sure your responses are clear, powerful, and focused on the value you will bring to the audience.

Direct Outreach Outlets

Sometimes you can bypass the formal Call for Speakers by building relationships and marketing directly to decision-makers. Direct outreach, when done thoughtfully, can open doors.

It should go without saying (but I’m going to say it anyway) that any direct outreach should be considerate, high-quality, and value-giving - NOT spammy and annoying. Every communication should provide value and foster genuine connections.

Email Outreach

If you have an organization in mind, do your research. You can often find the right person to reach out to. If it’s an association, look for titles like VP of Membership, VP of Education, or Director of Programming. In some cases, you might reach out directly to the President - though they may point you back to one of the people previously mentioned. ****

Corporate speaking opportunities are a bit more nuanced. HR or Learning and Development teams often scout speakers, while decisions may made by a department head or a committees. Building relationships with both direct contacts and decision-makers is crucial.

Email Template

Hi [Planner's Name],

I’m reaching out because I’ve been following [Event/Conference Name], and I would love the opportunity to offer a keynote/breakout session on [your speech topic] at your upcoming event. Is this a good time to reach out and discuss, or will you be looking for speakers at a later date?

Briefly introducing myself, my name is [Your Name], and I specialize in [briefly mention who you serve, the problems you solve]. I believe that your audience would love to participate in a program that helps them [benefits].

I have 2 programs that I thought might be of interest, but I wanted to check in first to see if this is a good time. If you’re interested, I’m more than happy to send more information about the programs, along with some testimonials from past audiences.

I would love to discuss how this could fit into your event’s programming and bring value to your audience.

Please let me know if you’d like to schedule a call to explore this further.

Looking forward to your thoughts!

Best regards,

[Your Full Name]

[Your Position]

[optional: Include link to speaking-specific page]

[Website/Contact Information]

LinkedIn DMs

If you’re connected with event organizers or decision-makers on LinkedIn, DMs are a great way to start the conversation. Keep initial messages professional, concise, and conversational. Build rapport before transitioning the discussion to email or scheduling a meeting.

Initial Outreach (First DM):

Subject: Speaking Opportunity for [Event Name]

Hi [First Name],

I noticed that you’re planning [Event Name] and wanted to reach out. Is this a good time to connect about potential speakers, or would it be better to reach out later?

A quick introduction: I’m [Your Name], and I specialize in [briefly mention who you serve, the problems you solve]. I believe your audience would appreciate a program that focuses on [specific benefits].

I have two programs that I think would align well with your event’s goals. If this sounds like a fit, I’m happy to share more details and testimonials from past audiences.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

Warmly,

[Your Name]

Follow-up DM (If No Response After 5-7 Days):

Hi [First Name],

I wanted to follow up on my earlier message about potentially speaking at [Event Name]. I believe one of my programs would resonate well with [audience description], offering [brief restatement of the benefit or impact].

Would you be open to connecting for a brief chat, or is there a better time to discuss speaker opportunities?

Thanks again for your time,

[Your Name]

Response DM (If They Respond Positively):

Hi [First Name],

Thank you for getting back to me! [Linked/Attached] is some more information about the two programs I had in mind, including testimonials from past events.

Would you like to schedule a quick call to discuss how we can make this work for [Event Name]? I’m happy to work around your availability.

If it’s more convenient for you, here’s my [calendar link].

Looking forward to the conversation!

Best,

[Your Name]

Response DM (If They Respond With Interest But No Decision Yet):

Hi [First Name],

Thanks so much for your interest! I’d be happy to send over more information and how they could fit into [Event Name] closer to [suggestion timeframe].

Feel free to let me know if you'd like any further details.

Best regards,

[Your Name]

Response DM (If They Respond Negatively or Decline):

Hi [First Name],

Thank you for letting me know! I understand. If anything changes or if future opportunities arise, I’d love to stay in touch.

Warmly,

[Your Name]

Mailers

Physical mail can be a surprising and refreshing way to stand out, especially in today’s digital age. Sending a professional, branded mailer with that creates intrigue with a short, engaging message can spark curiosity and open the door to further conversation.

Follow-up Tactfully

If you haven’t heard back after your initial outreach, send a polite follow-up 7-10 days later. Express continued interest, provide additional value (such as an article or content that might interest them), and avoid being pushy.

Crafting Your Speech Titles, Descriptions, Takeaways, and Bio

You need to cater to two audiences in your pitch:

  1. The meeting planner, who assesses whether your program matches the event’s goals.
  2. Your future audience members, who will decide whether or not to attend your session.

While I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all approach to creating speech titles and descriptions, the following tips will help you level-up your pitches and get you more invitations to speak.

Speech Title

Your speech title is critical because it often determines whether or not someone continues reading your pitch. It needs to immediately signal value, be clear, and hook your audience's interest. Here are some tips for crafting strong titles, along with examples for tailoring to your clients’ industries.

Use a title/subtitle format for more clarity.

  • The Patient Journey: Leveraging Technology to Improve Patient Experience and Increase Referrals
  • Maximizing ROI in Healthcare: Cutting Costs WITHOUT Compromising Care

Decide on using pain-point-centered or benefit-centered titles that immediately signal value.

  • Breaking Through the Noise: A Proven Framework for Winning Agency Pitches Every Time
  • Solving the SaaS Retention Crisis: How to Reduce Churn by 25%

Incorporate audience descriptors (e.g., job titles) to attract specific groups.

  • Building Trust in a Digital World: Proven Tactics for Healthcare Administrators to Improve Patient Engagement
  • A Step-by-Step Guide for HR Directors to Boost Employee Retention by 20% with Personalized Learning Programs
  • Essential Metrics for CTOs: How to Optimize Product Development Cycles and Drive Innovation

Keep it simple and avoid jargon—write at a 7th-grade reading level to ensure clarity.

  • Consulting 2.0: Scaling Your Practice with Easy-to-Use Digital Tools and Automation
  • Digital Transformation Simplified: A Practical Guide for Accounting Firms to Increase Efficiency
  • AI in Action: How Law Firms Can Use Automation Tools to Save Time and Money

Use emotionally engaging language to pique interest. Even technical and analytical audiences respond to emotional triggers. (Yes, I’m talking you, engineering and finances folk.)

  • Engineering with Optimism: How New Technologies Are Increase Work/Life Balance & Satisfaction
  • Finding Relief Through Innovation: How Project Managers Can Cut Down On Team Overwhelm
  • Overcoming Uncertainty & Costly Mistakes: How AI is Helping Law Firms Navigate Complex Cases with Confidence

Find opportunities to be specific in your descriptions.

  • Data-Driven Decisions: Simplifying Funnels for 30% More Conversions
  • Mastering Client Retention: 5 Key Strategies for Digital Marketing Agencies to Double Retainer Renewals

Speech Description

Your speech description is the hook that sets the stage for your talk and draws attendees in. It needs to communicate why your topic is relevant right now, the specific problems it addresses, and how it will benefit both attendees and their broader goals.

Speech Description Tips:

  • Set the stage: Why is this topic important right now? Frame the problem in a way that resonates with the audience’s current challenges.
  • Address specific problems: Focus on the most pressing issue your talk will solve for the audience.
  • Highlight benefits: Go beyond the individual attendee and discuss how your session will help their teams, clients, or larger organizational goals.

Speech Description Template

Today [audience title] are facing [specific challenge] and struggling to [desired benefit]. This program offers [specific solution or approach] that will [final desired outcome]. By the end of this session, participants will have actionable strategies for [emotional and practical benefits].

Key Takeaways

This is a major differentiator for those who want to level up their pitches. Rather than simply listing what you’ll cover, focus on why each point matters and what transformation or benefit the audience will experience.

Key Takeaway Tips:

  • For each item, ask yourself: "So what?" Why does this matter to the attendee?
  • Phrase your takeaways in terms of what they’ll achieve or gain rather than what you’ll talk about.

Before & After Example:

Before: "Attendees will learn how to create effective digital marketing strategies."

After: "Attendees will walk away with a 5-step framework to design digital marketing campaigns that boost client ROI by 25%."

Before: "Participants will hear about leadership development."

After: "Participants will leave with a clear understanding of how to implement leadership techniques that improve team performance by 20% in 6 months."

The Speaker Bio

Pretty much every client I’ve ever worked with struggles most when writing their bio. They dread the process only seconded by the dread of writing copy for their site’s About page. Hopefully this eases your struggle.

Your bio is your opportunity to establish credibility, but it should also connect with the specific program you’re pitching. Tailor your bio to make it clear why you’re the perfect speaker for this topic, in addition to (or rather than) giving a generic overview of your credentials.

Bio Tips:

  • Keep it relevant: Tie your experience directly to the session you’re proposing.
  • Humanize yourself: Consider adding a line or two about how your personal experience adds value to the subject.
  • Include a credibility marker: This could be a statistic, notable client, degrees, certifications, or key result you’ve achieved in the past.

Set the Tone

Your pitch should reflect your brand’s personality and connect with your target audience. If your style is quirky, lean into that. If you’re more pragmatic, let that shine.

A key takeaway here is that your speech title, description, key takeaways, and bio should all work together to create a compelling narrative of what attendees can expect and why you’re the best person to deliver that experience.

Pitching for speaking engagements can play a key role in your presence-forward marketing strategy. By understanding how the event industry works, crafting compelling content, and building relationships, you can significantly increase your chances of landing highly valuable speaking opportunities. Stay proactive and always focus on the value you bring to both the event hosts and their audiences.


How Elevated i Can Help

If you’ve ever had the sneaking suspicion that your message isn’t pulling its weight, you’re not alone. At Elevated i, we specialize in helping professionals like you maximize your impact at both in-person and online event opportunities. Whether it’s refining your message or crafting a comprehensive strategy, we’re here to support you.

How we can work together:

  • Executive Communication Coaching: Collaborate directly Sharí Alexander for high-level consulting and practical coaching. Together you’ll elevate your personal influence and your brand’s impact.
  • Thought Leadership Strategy & Execution: Whether fine-tuning a presentation, seeking a holistic event strategy, or or building an online thought leadership presence, Sharí’s team has you covered. From creating presentation slides and follow-up nurture sequences to crafting your thought leadership editorial calendar, we ensure your messaging is both consistent and compelling.
  • Workshops & Intensives: Laser-focused sessions tailored for individuals or small teams, covering topics like target market avatar development, editorial calendar creation, lead magnet strategies, pitching for speaking engagements, and signature program creation. Sharí also offers keynotes on influential communication skills.

If you’re ready to spark a conversation about working together, contact us here for a consultation, and let’s unlock new opportunities for your business.

Not quite ready for a phone call? Check out Sharí’s open office hours and sign up for the invitation list.

Tools and Workflows for Thought Leaders: How to Be Productive and Creative

Tools and Workflows for Thought Leaders: How to Be Productive and Creative

As a business owner, I'm always on the lookout for ways to improve my processes. Anything that can help me be more productive and creative, then the happier my team, my clients, and I are. Below are tools and workflows that I have found to be particularly helpful in leverage my time, delegate tasks, and foster creativity.

Morning Pages

I've written about this practice extensively - sharing why I keep up with Morning Pages and how I leverage Morning Pages for my work. Writing my Morning Pages every day helps me clear my mind, focus on my priorities, and generate new ideas. Over the years, I've switched from writing by hand to typing my Morning Pages in Google Docs, and now I keep them in Notion.

Notion

Speaking of Notion, this is another tool I've grown to love. Notion is incredibly versatile and can be used for a variety of purposes. For me, it serves as my company wiki, my editorial calendar, and our family's recipe cookbook (just to name a few ways I use it). I find that Notion is particularly helpful for big-picture thinking and brainstorming. In addition to housing our SOPs, I also use notion as a creative space for product development. Many people also use Notion as their project management tool, but for me, I find ClickUp more suited for those needs.

ClickUp

Ah, ClickUp. This, like Notion, has been a gamechanger in my business! ClickUp is my project management software and my CRM. I use it to track projects, tasks, client work, sales pipeline, and contacts. ClickUp is incredibly powerful and customizable. It's been essential for keeping track of all the moving parts in my business.

Telegram

Telegram is a tool I use both personally and professionally. I love using it to stay in touch with friends and also for communicating with clients. Clients can easily talk through their questions and ideas in a voice message, and then get my answers and feedback. Hearing each other's tone in messages enhances the coaching experience tremendously compared to emails back and forth.

I also use Telegram when I'm on the go to record messages when I get hit with flashes of inspiration. Those recordings then get added to ClickUp and turned into tasks. 

Canva

Next up is Canva. What a beautifully helpful, user-friendly tool. Now, some design purists might snub at Canva and I get it. There are certainly other professional-grade options out there. And there are plenty of situations in which those should be used. But Canva provides so much agility for me and my team.

We use canva for presentation slides, case studies, digital and print ads, lead magnets, and more. Their new AI functions - like image creation - are pretty handy as well. 

I also use Canva as my mind mapping tool for larger projects. 

Honorable Mentions - Personal Productivity

Under the umbrella of personal productivity, these apps also get used daily.

Spotify for podcasts, LoFi and binural beats for deep work. Freeletics for work workouts so I don't have to spend mental energy on what my workout for the day should be. Down Dog is my daily dose of peace with yoga, meditation, and breathwork.

Whether you, too, are an entrepreneur or just looking for ways to be more creative and productive, I recommend you give these tools a whirl!

How to Request Time to Think: Phrases for When You Don’t Know How to Respond…Yet

How to Request Time to Think: Phrases for When You Don’t Know How to Respond…Yet

Part of being an influential communicator is knowing the difference between responding versus reacting.

A reaction stems from assumptions, subconscious communication habits, and unexamined emotions. A response is the result of reflection and consideration of multiple perspectives.

What typically distinguishes a response versus a reaction? Pause.

In the past few decades, time for pause has been bogarted by technology.

It's easy to lose sight of how much technology has trained us to be reactionary. Our devices and their software are designed to get reactions from us:

  • Text message alerts
  • Email alerts
  • Social media alerts
  • News alerts

We’re always ready and alert for anything that needs our instant "response" - ahem, reaction.

Now, time for pause has to be claimed. Requests for a pause will help you return with thoughtful responses.

Phrases for Requesting Time to Respond

We all have the personal responsibility to communicate a need for pause - to let others know that you want to show up fully, wholeheartedly, and mindfully to the conversation.

Every situation has its own nuances. To help you get started, here are a few easy phrases you can use as a springboard in different situations for when you need to request time to think.

Requesting Time to Think at Work:

  • "I would like some time to take this under consideration."
  • "Please give me time to review this for when I have a bit more bandwidth."
  • "I'd appreciate the time to think this over."

Requesting Time to Think at Home:

  • "I need a moment to take a breath."
  • "I'd appreciate some space to process everything."
  • "I feel like I need my thoughts to catch up to my feelings. Can we please revisit this sometime soon".

Requesting Time to Think on Social Media:

I have seen different examples of when someone expressed a need to pause on an online platform. If you'd like to make a request for space on social media - either in a particular thread or from your entire online presence - then feel free to find your own personal mix using the phrases above in either category.

As a caveat, I don't necessarily think you need to apply the same "rules" to social media as you would for 1-1 interactions. If you feel an aspect of your social media has taken a toxic turn, consider not engaging further until you feel it's right for you.

 

Accepting Requests for Time to Think

If you see the value in taking a pause for yourself, then please honor the request when it’s made by someone else. Time to think helps us all have mindful conversations. Pauses help us get through thoughts and emotions that come from fears or defensives that want to react with a potentially harmful consequences. Time to think helps us avoid saying words we wish we could take back. Time to think helps us find the words for creation, connection, opportunity, innovation, healing, and motivation. 

Mindful conversations follow requests and acceptance for a pause.

Sharí Alexander

Sharí Alexander

Founder - Elevated í

Executive Communication Coaching
& Message Strategy Services

When your words mean business
Contact - LinkedIn

 

How to Lead Difficult Conversations

How to Lead Difficult Conversations

Sometimes, we get to be influential in fun and exciting scenarios like landing a new client or in getting a job promotion, but that’s not always the case.

Often times, we need to be persuasive in difficult situations – like when a person has let you down.

As a leader in your profession, as a parent, or as a friend, you will inevitably want to elicit new and different behaviors from someone who has disappointed you.

This is the kind of conversation most people find uncomfortable and will actively avoid.

And yet, these conversations can create understanding and stronger connections, followed by the change you’re seeking.

Without the ability to step up and guide these conversations, you and the person who disappointed you will be condemned to an endless loop of unmet expectations and heartbreak.

Uncomfortable conversations hold space for the biggest changes.

Give the person who disappointed you the chance to change with a difficult (yet persuasive) conversation.

How to Start A Difficult Conversation After Disappointment

From starting a presentation to leading a meeting, or kicking off a sales call, this first tip is helpful for pretty much any circumstance where you intend to lead a conversation.

This technique is known as pre-framing.

There are many uses for pre-framing. For the context of this article, it simply means giving the other person an outline of the conversation you’re about to have. The beats or guideposts, if you will. This is to give them a heads up about what’s to come.

Here’s an example of what this can look like,

“I’d like for us to talk about what happened. It would be really helpful if both of us can share our perspective on the situation. I’m especially curious to learn what each of us initially thought or were expecting, our experience of the situation, as well as what has happened since. After that, I think we’ll be in a good place to figure out what we could do differently in the future.”

There’s a WHOLE BUNCH of distinctly chosen words in that 4-sentence paragraph. And I’m going to teach you the principles guiding all of them. THEN, I’ll cover each section proposed in this conversational outline – its function and intention.

When you utilize this framework, your next difficult conversation might actually turn out pleasant and rewarding!

The Psychology Behind This Conversation Opener

Starting your difficult conversation with the structure outlined above accomplishes a number of things.

First, by setting up the conversation this way, you are providing some comfort for the person you want to persuade.

They know what to expect. They know what’s coming up. Having this knowledge lets them relax, even if it’s just a little bit.

That incremental relaxation will bring down any of their defense mechanisms that might be kicking in.

Second, it makes the conversation fairer.

Meaning, you walked into the conversation knowing full well what you wanted to say and what you wanted to accomplish. How about we give the other person the same courtesy by giving them just a few moments to gather their thoughts. Yeah, it might not be much, but it is something.

Starting this kind of difficult conversation shouldn’t sound like, “Hey, can we just talk about something?” or “Can we talk about what happened Monday afternoon?”

If you just leave it at that, the other person doesn’t know if you’re disappointed, angry, or really what you want from them at all. And so, their defenses go up and now there’s an added level of tension that you could have avoided.

Lastly, opening the conversation with this structure can help you keep the conversation on track if/when the conversation deviates and gets tangential.

“I know you’re excited to talk about what we can do differently next time, but first let me make sure I have a clear understanding about what you were initially expecting.”

The outline helps you both stay focused, practice restraint, and keep your cool.

You can still have an organic conversation, the outline simply makes sure that it’s not amorphous, and ultimately pointless.

Now, let’s take a closer look at the outline – why certain words are more helpful than others, what each section accomplishes, and how it all leads to a collaborative solution.

Taking Turns

“I’d like for us to talk about what happened. It would be really helpful if both of us can share our perspective on the situation.”

Two important takeaways in these beginning two sentences.

First, notice how you’re eliciting for help, not confronting someone. We all have an innate desire to be helpful. We are social creatures, which means that collaboration is fundamental to our survival.

By asking for help, you are giving the other person power in this conversation – not taking it away.

Second, by saying that both of you will share your perspectives, you’re letting the person who disappointed you know that this will not be a one-sided conversation.

This isn’t chastising. This is problem-solving.

Before, During, After

“…I’m especially curious to learn what each of us initially thought or were expecting, our experience of the situation, as well as what has happened since.…”

There is a reason why we don’t start the conversation by jumping right into the climax of the problem. That’s when emotions were (are) at their highest.

When our emotions are elevated, it’s more difficult to think logically and to problem solve – which is our ultimate intention of this conversation.

You can keep emotions from flaring up too soon (or even at all) by focusing on the events leading up to the issue in question.

Specifically, their expectations. Why? Because this is usually where things fall apart – unclear, miscommunicated, or never-communicated expectations. You can typically sort out the bigger problem by focusing on this first step.

Next, you both will share your experience of the situation.

Take turns. Listen. Don’t interrupt. And repeat what you heard.

“Ok, so if I’m hearing you correctly, it sounds like you were expecting Jeffrey to handle the set-up while you were going to take care of the print materials.”

Repeating back what they said will help you better understand their perspective AND will make them feel heard and validated – which, again, keeps defenses down and cool heads on.

Lastly, the two of you will share what has happened since the disappointing situation. The fallout.

This is important because we don’t always understand the consequences of our actions.

They might not have realized that their actions led to bigger consequences. It’s possible they might not be aware of the fact that penalty charges were incurred because your team didn’t leave the event space in time. They might not know that another department team had to put in extra hours over the weekend to fix the mistake and still meet a deadline.

Don’t mistake ignorance for bad intentions.

Once again, take turns during this section. There might be a ripple effect from the other person’s point of view that you aren’t currently aware of. So, make sure they too get their time to share about the post-event experience.

What We Can Do Differently

“…After that, I think we’ll be in a good place to figure out what we could do differently in the future.”

In order to make this conversation productive, there must be some insight gained so that everyone can do better in the future.

And I do mean everyone …. That means, including you.

By its very nature, relationships include 2 or more people. Which means, every situation involving that relationship has multiple people with multiple perspectives and multiple actions that lead to multiple effects.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that it’s all them and none of you.

There is some percentage split of responsibility. Whether it’s 50/50 or 90/10, you still bear some form of responsibility.

This difficult conversation is a learning opportunity for them and you.

The focus for the end of the conversation is to set everyone up for success in the future. What changes to our process and/or communication can we make? What can they take responsibility for? What can you take responsibility for? And what can you each of you do differently in the future?

Don’t Forget This Step!

Thank them.

Difficult conversations aren’t just difficult for you. They are difficult for them, too. Give the other person the appreciation they deserve for participating, speaking their mind, listening to you, and helping you find a solution.

Thank them because that was a whole lot of work for both of you.


The Power of Heroes and Villains: How to Influence Others by Understanding Their Motivations

The Power of Heroes and Villains: How to Influence Others by Understanding Their Motivations

When it comes to influencing others, it's important to understand what motivates them. People are often driven by the pursuit of pleasure or the avoidance of pain, and keeping track of their triggers can help you guide them towards your desired outcome. However, there is a lesser-discussed technique that can be just as effective: understanding their heroes and villains.

Heroes and Villains: In each person's life, there are individuals they admire and aspire to be like, as well as those they reject and aim to avoid becoming. These heroes and villains act as guiding posts, shaping our sense of self and influencing our decisions. By identifying someone's heroes and villains, you can make your message more compelling and increase your chances of success.

Heroes can come from a variety of sources, including family members, friends, industry leaders, celebrities, authors, historical figures, and even fictional characters. They represent qualities that we admire and strive to emulate, such as confidence, discipline, kindness, or success. In contrast, villains represent negative qualities that we seek to avoid, such as dishonesty, laziness, cruelty, or failure.

Using Heroes and Villains to Influence Others: When guiding someone to take action, it can be helpful to reference their heroes and villains to illustrate your point. For example, if you know that your friend looks up to their grandfather as a hero for his strong work ethic, you could remind them of his example when encouraging them to tackle a challenging project. Or, if you know that your colleague views a certain celebrity as a villain for their selfish behavior, you could use that reference to discourage them from taking a similar path.

It's important to note that heroes and villains don't have to be people that someone has met personally. They can also be symbolic figures, such as fictional characters or historical figures. For example, a business owner might use Elon Musk as a hero to inspire them to think bigger and pursue innovative ideas, even if they've never met him in person.

Understanding someone's heroes and villains can be a powerful tool for influencing them towards your desired outcome. By tapping into their motivations and referencing examples that they admire or reject, you can make your message more compelling and increase your chances of success. So, take the time to learn about someone's heroes and villains, and use that knowledge to guide them towards a positive outcome.